How we’ve been taught to think and feel
When we think of abundance, we tend to think of the amount of money we have. This is the way we’ve been taught to think. Do we have plenty of money to show for ourselves? Or not enough? An abundance? Or are we feeling lacking?
We may look at other people who appear to be well off. When we hear them complain about the high cost of living, we may think thoughts like: They have so much. Much more than I do. They should be grateful for all they have. They have no right to complain.
These are not generous thoughts. As such they deny abundance. They deny our own abundance. Anytime our thoughts and feelings lack generosity like this, they’re ‘tight’. They’re mean-spirited. Thoughts that generate abundance on the other hand, are generous and free-flowing.
When we want to think about what we have got, we may actually give more thought to what we haven’t got. Why? Because within our culture, we’ve inherited the habit of thinking in lack terms. This common way of thinking tends to keep its focus on inadequacy, whilst overlooking instances of plenty. (Just watch the news!)
By inherited mental habit, what we generally think of and affirm is lack.
Feeling insecure in life is a very common way to feel. We’ll associate insecurity with negativity and lack. We fear we may never have enough. This is the antithesis of seeing an abundant future for ourselves.
I’ve never had much and I don’t expect that will ever change. The clue is in the expectation. An expectation of limitation, that no-one thinks to question, is what gets passed from parent down to child.
The concept of being thankful is actually more likely to be heard in a normal conversation about lacking, than in one about having plenty, or receiving something good. Like in the following example, we can sense a heavy tightness, not the lightness and free-feeling that true abundance carries: Just be thankful that you’ve got a roof over your head!
And yet, with a little more mindfulness in our focus, our thankfulness can easily be evoked in a positive situation. When we see a magnificent sunset, for instance, or we drink a glass of cool refreshing water on a very hot day, we can choose to express appreciation.
We may look at the affluent and see the abundance in their lives. Abundance of wealth, that is, which is usually carefully secured. If we look again, we may notice that wealth and happiness are not necessarily linked.
Think of rich movie stars, then think again about the unhappiness in personal relationships which the media also brings to our attention. True abundance though, will always be associated with happiness.
Just as we can’t feel abundant and lacking at the same time, we can’t feel abundant and unhappy at the same time.
A truly abundant life is happy and free-flowing. There’s no attachment to accumulation in true abundance, or holding on tightly to what we already have, for fear that we could lose it.
A healthy rosebush lives in abundance. It has all the air, nourishment and water that it needs to thrive. It produces beautiful blooms. Its blooms release heavenly scent into the air.
The rosebush shares its splendour with every passer-by, regardless of their worldly lack or plenty. Some passers-by take notice. They're open to receiving this natural goodness, but many are oblivious to this free bounty.
When we take the time to enjoy that generous offering from the rosebush, we attune ourselves to its natural abundance. The choice is ours to make.
How can we stay more tuned in when we want to feel abundant?
♥ Think more generously.
♥ Think appreciatively.
♥ Take the time to smell the roses.